It is natural to mourn and grieve when parents pass. The discussion of good or bad parents is not even applied. If you have a 9 Tyler Johnson Tampa Bay Lightning shirt, loving, supportive, happy & healthy relationship with your parents then yes- the grief could be life-crippling & make you pause and question so much. You could feel lost because that relationship is irreplaceable! On the other side- if you have disconnected, abusive, non-participants, missing altogether from the relationship, unhealthy parents- when they pass away- you can even grieve for the emotional turmoil left inside you- the anger, abandoning the fear of never being good enough, or not worthy enough for them- will still be life pausing.