How do I stop the cycle of those who “want” me always getting me? I always remember being this Back to the Pub shirt A coach wanted me to play for him, so I did. A former boss wanted me to work for them again, so I did. You mean, how do you stop the cycle of you agreeing to do things you don’t want to do? Step one is doing what I just did: Reframe this so it’s no longer something other people are doing to you, and it’s now something you are choosing to do. People don’t “get” you, because you are not an object to be “gotten.” You agree to their requests because you are a person who makes choices. Step two is to reflect on why you make these choices. It may take some time to figure this out. Sometimes, therapy can help. Offhand, I’d guess that you undervalue your own desires and needs, and overvalue the wishes of others. Perhaps you fear disappointing others.